The problem is all inside your head, the answer is easy of you take it logically!
The Matt Lauer cheating story is picking up again. Cheating stories have been wildly popular recently - so perhaps it was time for this to move back to the front burner. First a little recap, & let's start with the obvious. It helps keep everything clear.Matt is the popular host of the popular chat show Good Morning America. He's bright, personable, well liked by most of his colleagues (there has been some behind the scenes friction with Meredith Vierra, but she came from the View where conflict is expected and even encouraged), and married to a beautiful Dutch fashion model named Annette Jade Roque.
On the Roques - tried until tired
Life should have been good for Good Morning America's main man except that back in 1998, when his wife was expecting their 3rd child, the couple separated and filed for divorce. Seems that Roque was a bit flighty (years of anorexia & diet pills can leave some models light headed & nervous). Roque got it in her head that Matt was a philanderer. Part of this is because she was never quite sure of what he was up to. This was because Matt was always on the road as part of his GMA duties. Now Matt tried to explain to her that this was what he had to do to earn the money with which he kept her in the style to she'd become accustomed to - nervous!
soothing that seething someone, within the limits of logic
Annette didn't buy that, even though it added up. Too convenient. So as her pregnancy progressed she got crazier and crazier, and made more of a stink. Now in Matt's defense it wasn't that she had proof he'd cheated, it was just that he couldn't prove to her that he hadn't. So the pretty woman drove herself into a case near psychosis by trying to prove a negative! Ask any atheist - you just can't win trying to prove a negative.
paranoia succumbs to reverse psychology, temporarily
Well Matt got to a point where he couldn't take it. So he walked out, and filed for divorce. His honesty and directness about not being able to stand the sight of her anymore seemed to get through to her. Maybe he really wasn't cheating. Besides she was getting nearer her due date and that's no time to drive away the bread winner just for the sake of getting carried away. So they reconciled and dropped the divorce. They went back to their hard and bitter peace, and little was heard, until now!
Vancity, Vancity - all is Vancity!
Things hummed along as usual for a while. Annette got thinner and Matt kept losing hair. Then the Winter Olympics came along and the strain proved too much. Matt had to go to Vancouver for the show. This put him out of ISR - Immediate Surveillance Range. So Annette's imagination moved into overdrive again. It didn't help that the wife of another GMA staffer starting tell Annie stories about Matt living it up in Vancity. In particular he liked to party down and flirt with good looking young chicks - of which there is a plenitude in Vancouver.
two non-stop days of fighting
Perhaps Matt was glad to be out of the mad house for awhile cause when the Olympics clued up Lauer decided to stay in town for a while. Going home to a crazed anorexic supermodel wife with an endless list of accusations may have seemed like something that could wait. Annette didn't see it that way, so when Matt got back the marriage was over!
sports ruins another already defunct marriage?
Anyway on Matt's return one thing lead to another and soon he walked out again (it worked before). In fact the pair have been living apart ever since the Winter Olympics (that was a great opening ceremony but did it remind anyone else of Pink Floyd's Pulse?). Not only that but Annette has taken off her wedding ring.
So now they're running up to divorce again. Contacts have said that though Matt likes to blow off steam, he's never cheated. As a public person had he cheated it would certainly have come to light by now. Word is Matt just got so very tired of trying to reason with his crazy wife. As previously said the basis of her suspicions are Matt's inability to prove a negative. You can't reason with some one in that state and reverse psych will only work so many times (1 or 2). So Matt threw up his hands and left.
Good Morning America & the case of the kooky cookie - a comedy of terrors
While Matt's wife is clearly crazy, and there is a real lack of evidence that Matt ever had his finger in anyone else's cookie jar - I really think that Matt himself is to blame for this. If those delightful 60's sitcoms have taught us anything it's that you're never gonna get out of a spot by reasoning with people. For one thing that could lead to truth telling and other unwelcome glimpse's of reality. To deal with suspicious wives, demanding bosses, nosy neighbors etc. you have to rely on a really good story.
why reason with some one when you could tell them a zany story?
Ideally it should be something over elaborate and highly entertaining, like such as the kind Elizabeth Montgomery used to deflect the snoopy Gladys Kravitz ("Abner come quick - the Stevens woman is flying around her living room on a broom stick!" "Gladys I don't care if she's flying to the moon in a rocket ship! Come away from that window and mind your own business!" Abner was clearly the Sergeant Schultz in that arrangement. Still Samantha's inventive stories were far more magical than any of her nose twitching - like the time she convinced Gladys that she must actually be the witch, & not Samantha. "Well Mrs Kravitz the stuff you notice only seems to happen when you're around. Do you think that you could be causing it? Why I think that you've got the power!"). Failing that one of Major Nelson or Col Hogan's zany routine might be worth a try. Reason didn't help Hogan's Heroes win WW2 from inside a Luftstalag. For one thing some one had to teach he Limey's how to cheat!
for life's answers turn to country music and sitcoms!
So when cornered by his dreadful mate, he merely needed to counter her unreasonable accusations with a bundle of preposterous lies ( ie assertions that can't be disproved - make the paranoia work for you instead of against you). Now that'll take her completely off guard for one thing. It might even put her in the position of having to prove a negative. So the marriage would have a chance of being the normal working dysfunctional relationship - just like Billary Clinton.
The only problem is coming up with something really good. Now that's not as hard as you might think. Just begin with the obvious, and then give it a little twist. For instance had Matt took a leaf from the Hank Williams Sr songbook he might have been able to talk his wife out of her accusation, rather than wasting time in the lost cause of trying to talk sense into her. Just like the condemned solider in the following country classic.
Now before you scoff it has also been known to work on dictatorial tyrants, like Margaret Thatcher!
new situations old complications!
Wow, that was like watching Seneca talk himself out of one of Nero's many many death traps. So if you're gonna be truthful why not start with yourself, & that kind of honesty is all about clarity. Remember that the issue isn't trying to get a nut to be sane, that would be a crazy expectation! It's about dealing with what's making them act up. It's not Annette's cheating concerns that have to be directly contradicted, but her insecurities that need creative stroking (Of course in the event that Annette has superpowers or anything then the Col Hogan routine goes out the window). Anything else is like getting mad at your car for not starting. Remember Matt that there are 13 tricks in a deck of cards, & 50 ways to leave your lover!
